It's Not All About That Online Life. / by Emily Margaret

Confession: I'm tired of the internet.

I'm tired of the constant comparison game, the hustle, the brighter and louder, and the more. It's hard when you use the web and see what everyone else is doing, but when it's an integral part of your business, it's even easier to feel like you're constantly trying to keep up and find the next thing before someone else does.

And I know it's not all like that and there are so so many good things that come out of the web, but it is so easy to get lost in the hustle and the noise.

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I've been thinking about the internet a lot lately, and right before I went to write this post, I found that I'm not alone (recommended reading: Rachel's post) and that gives me hope that things will change. But we have to actively start making those changes instead of only talking about it.

In my social media feeds, I've seen how the bigger and better becomes trendy and drowns out the small and honest and real. The stylized coffee instagrams and images of well-dressed couples embracing in front of a backdrop of mountains somewhere in the #PNW becomes all we see, conditioning us to feel that unless we're doing that too, we're doing it wrong.

We know that's not true, but yet we feel inadequate. If you didn't instagram/blog/tweet it, it might as well not have happened, right? We talk so much about living with intention and authenticity that the words change to represent a curated instagram feed and the real meaning gets lost.

In the words of Hannah Brencher, "I wish I could meet more people who are devoted to the reality of life, rather than the perception of perfection we give our lives to on the screen."

So, I'm going to do things that I want to do and the way I want to do them- not because it's what they say I should do to keep up with the hustle or to be successful, because how do you define that anyway? 

There's a time and place for creating spaces of pretty things and I really enjoy doing that, but I don't ever want what I post to create feelings of inadequacy in someone else's life. I think there's a balance in there somewhere between posting the pretty and the real messy moments and I'll be the first to admit that I don't yet know how to find it. It will take time and experimentation, but I want to be real and yet inspiring at the same time.

In an effort to simplify and remove distractions, I'm logging off and unfollowing. I'm limiting my online time and keeping the media that I consume to a smaller amount. I'd rather create more than I consume and follow those who truly inspire me and don't cause me to constantly compare myself to them. I'm following who I want to follow, instead of who I feel like I "should" follow. I'm finding that streamlining my systems helps me manage my online accounts and decrease the amount of time I spend on them.

I hope that you don't feel pressure to do what others do, but instead do what makes your heart feel alive. With the power of the internet comes great responsibility. Use your powers for good. (Yes I'm a nerd, whatever.)

Thoughts? How do you feel about the internet? How do you keep it from negatively impacting your life?